Barleen kaur

6 feb 2011

Marriage versus living together

Ever since Adam and Eve took the stage for life . Ever since the life was rendered by

God the life has been carried out even more with the tradition of marriages after which

comes the state of enjoying the family life .There are children who get you the essence

of life , there are expectations , there are daily trifles and many such similar things to

dawn upon. But living together has no trifles, no responsibilities. But with all such

relaxations there are still some things that make marriages an even more happier

experience to live with.

Factors that make marriages a happy experience

Affection:

Affection among the inmates. The people who together form what they call as the

family unit that is brought when all the family members live together sharing there

happiness, there sorrows . The love they offer to each other and moreover the feel that

unite them whatever may be the range of the problems they have.

Intimacy :

The family members are quite close to each other to share each others problems.

Factors that make living together a better experience

No responsibilities:

There are less of responsibilities with people in a live in relation as the family

members do not have much of work to do what they are expected that they have to

do they are stuck with work they should have done.

No expectations:

As there are no expectations there are less family trifles and the members are

not left quarelling with each other. They are not drowned by the wave of expecting.

No hidden facts:
There are no hidden facts in a live in relation. If the either of the spouse has alcoholism

habit. They wouldn’t stop disclosing as this would not affect there daily lives.

Satisfaction of sexual needs :

Whether it be a men or a women the most satisfaction that is derived by the two is to

satisfy there sexual needs to cure their sexual lust. The two can sleep together without

having bound by the ordeals of daily life.

Factors that lack in marriages

In marriages that are generally arranged by the family are those that lack the shadow of

lack of communication among the family members that is often reciprocated in the form

of fights and anguishness.

Conclusion

Studies reveal that over the past years what has decreased is marriages of the adults by

ten percent and 533 percent increase has been seen in United States of America.

Such other studies conducted in different regions of New York and Sweden reveal that

married stabilities have shattered over the past years.

There has been an increase in the rates of marriage break ups and divorced cases over the past Years .Add to it the works done jointly at Yale and Columbia Universities in

the United States found that "the dissolution rate for women who cohabit premaritally

with their future spouse are , on average, nearly 80 percent higher than the rates of

those who do not."

Generation gap

And I stand here to discuss this ever debatable talk….

One of the important problems of all times is the generation gap. Adult’s mentality is different from teenager’s. They are the children of two epochs with different views on various subjects. Because of this parents and children sometimes argue with each other.
Some people believe that teenagers today are generally rude, lazy and ill-behaved. Other people, however, think that teenagers are not so bad.

The disparity in views, outlooks, lifestyle, values and perception of parents or the older generation on the other, results in the generation gap. The youngster lot wants to stay out for late night parties and believe in the philosophy of leading a merry life. They want to keep in tune with the overhanging world of fashion and believe in dressing up in the latest outfits. Some of these trendy cloths outrage the modesty of parents. The taste in music as well as lifestyle also differs vastly from the older to younger generation. The old age tradition values of respect for elders and love and attention for youngsters are being eroded and slogans like free expressions are being put forth by the younger generation. From a myth, generation gap is becoming reality.

Some people don’t want to understand modern views, ideals and system of values. They say that teenagers are cruel, brutal, heartless and rude. Yes, today new generation “plays” with smoking, drugs and alcohol, but this doesn’t mean that all teens are really bad!
On the other hand, today many elderly people look at the world with new

eyes. Moreover, they try to understand teenagers’ problems and solve them.
In most cases “new generation” doesn’t understand their parents and becomes depressed because of this. To protest against it, teens can shock people around them. That’s why it is considered that teens today are lazy and ill-behaved. Elderly people usually compare their childhood and youth with present, they are always talking about “the good old days”.
People are said to become wiser with age. Sometimes it is true and sometimes it is not. I think that you can meet a wise man among the old as often as among the young. It is wrong that when wisdom always comes in old age. Sometimes when we talk to adults, they listen only to their own point of view. That’s why some teens don’t like to talk to adults....

as I said in beginning it is a talk of past that continues till now..what changes each day is its face ….from grudges to understanding at present….and hope the relations improve for better but comparisons would only worsen it…